Dear Martie Junior,
Let me tell you something: you made it homie. Like you’re older now, and bigger, you have all those biceps you wanted to have, and you’re really working on that beard you always wanted and it’s coming out really well. Right now they’re laughing at you and calling you “Mtungi” just to make fun of your last name “Mtange”, but it’s okay, relax, they are just being kids. Don’t hate them, don’t hold grudges because they really don’t know what they’re saying, they’re just making fun. It’s not easy to be a pre-teen, don’t get me wrong, but it’s not that hard either. I’ll give you a few pointers to show you what I mean.
Remember when they laughed at all your pimples and you had to use drastic measures to try and stop your face from being a case of “connect the dots”? It was a big deal, you felt terrible about it, and you wondered why the acne only came to you and Jason still had a smooth face. You thought the girls didn’t find you handsome, and you scrubbed at the acne every night to try to get rid of them. I want to tell you that it’s okay, and that first, girls are not everything, secondly they actually confessed later that they liked you because you were smart and funny and third that the acne will disappear, and you’ll look really good. That said, there will always be something that everyone thinks isn’t right about you; it’s okay, be yourself anyway. At the end of the day, all you have to love is yourself because you’re the one who will nurse yourself to sleep every night, you’re the one who’ll have to live in your own skin, and you have to protect your inner peace. You are all you have, you cannot afford to hate anything about yourself, so love yourself, with or without acne, with or without biceps. If something makes you feel bad, you can either change it or accept it and move on; you have no energy to feel sorry for yourself, you only have energy to keep moving on. You will need it.
Martie, there are some things that you will be right about that everyone else will be wrong about. They will not trust your intuition, but you will know that you’re right, not because you’re Einstein but because sometimes God speaks directly to you. You will feel like you don’t fit in, so get out of that crowd. You will feel like that school you’re in is draining you and you will want to leave and go somewhere else, so fight, and leave that place that is draining all your energy. Any place that robs you of your peace of mind is not worth it, because you’re not weak, and you’re not a victim, when you want something to change, it’s because you know better. Trust your intuition, and make the changes you know you need to make, be it school, be it friends, be it careers, be it habits because trust me, all the changes you make based on solid intuition will work out for your good.
Boy you better learn from your parents! I know, I know how this sounds, a bit contradictory to what I said up there yeah? But it doesn’t have to be because you have good parents who always want the best for you even if sometimes they don’t seem to understand where you’re coming from. In some of the decisions you will make, one of them will always be on your side, even if they don’t say it in the open. Mum will fight for you to go to a better school that understands your needs and dad will fight for you when you want to do business and everyone else thinks you’re crazy. Most importantly, learn from them. Learn what you should do and what you shouldn’t do. Watch them and what they do, pick what gives the results you want and from what they do that doesn’t work, figure out how it would work if you were in their shoes. These will help you later on.
Last thing but definitely not the least homeboy: relax, calm down, not everything has to be reacted to in an extreme way. Right now you worry about so many things, you get angry really easily, you take offense so easily and you think that everyone is out to attack you because of your acne, because your voice is too deep, because you’re smart. You need to calm down, and relax, and not have to go out of control about every small thing that happens to you. If you don’t do it now, the ulcers will force you to relax later on in your life. Trust me, it’s not fun having acid in your stomach because of stress. So relax, step back for a minute if you feel like something will stress you, really consider whether it’s worth stressing over, if you can change it, do it, if you cannot, accept it and move on. If it’s someone that is stressing you, realize that whatever they are doing or saying is a reflection of their own madness, it really doesn’t have much to do with you, move on with your life. Trust me, this is much better for your peace of mind than trifling over every little thing a small mind says.
The next few years will be good for you, better than you can imagine actually. The girls will come through so respect them and the biceps will come through so maintain them. You’ve done well so far, you will get rid of your mind-blocks and you will become a very healthy person. No matter what, don’t stop, keep blooming homie.
Author: Martie Mtange | Date Created2017-05-31 07:07:08 | Comments: 0